If you are joining me for praying for your boys, this is from the Warrior Prayers ebook.
This one hit home. As I was reading this page, one of the boys walked in holding his shoulder where a brother had just whacked him. The brother was shouting that it was an accident, he didn't mean to hit him hard. Yet, he must have meant to hit him, because he made contact 'hard' with his brother's shoulder.
The third child at this time was doing an adverb page in English for the third time. UGHH! BOYS!
We definitely have to keep praying for them. I highlighted a few points for myself.
What Are We Aiming For?
“And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove
the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my
Spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes and be careful to obey my rules.”
I swear--young boys are a whole different breed of human. Mothers of girls often glare at me as if to say,
“Do they act that way all the time?” I often want to glare right back and say, “Yes! They do!”
Parenting my sons is my greatest joy and my greatest challenge. I love them to the ends of the earth and
back, but honestly, sometimes they suck the life out of me. I get so discouraged when it seems that even
my best efforts to reach their hearts miss the mark. I have all the right books (and I’ve actually read
them--some several times!). Each day I target the hearts of my boys, aiming high and taking my best
shot. But so many days I fall short, or my aim is off, or I’m just too weary to pull the bow back far
enough for the arrow to have the strength to pierce the heart. I go to bed those nights exhausted physically
and emotionally. But in my weakness, He is strong.
Perhaps the best place for a weary mom to be is physically and emotionally exhausted and on her knees.
With each day that passes, I’m more convinced that I have absolutely no power to change the hearts of
my boys. Oh, I can change their behavior if I try hard enough. Anyone can do that. But I know that
what’s in the heart eventually comes out. I know that if their knees are ever to bend to Jesus as Savior,
their hearts must bend first. And that’s God’s business.
I’m praying that you’ll grasp this concept so clearly that it will bring you strength and peace in the midst
of your wildest storms. You cannot change the hearts of your boys. You can’t. Period. It’s not your job.
It’s so important that you get this, friends, because you’re going to want to be able to change their hearts
more than anything in the world. Days, months, maybe even years of endless toil and labor for the sake
of your sons will go by with no apparent fruit. Night after night you will cry out to the Lord for change.
Day after day you will parent intentionally seeking the heart of your son. But until the King of kings and
Lord of lords turns his heart of stone to a heart of flesh, your son’s actions will be motivated by what is
pleasing to himself rather than by what is pleasing to the Lord.
As we journey into this process of praying for our sons, let’s remember this foundational concept: the first
and most important thing we must do is pray that God will change their hearts of stone to hearts of flesh.
These verses from Ezekiel thirty-six have become the theme of my parenting. I pray them for my sons
most every day. Because I know that until their hearts are softened by the Lord, to the Lord, nothing else
matters all that much.